Why TEXT-ing is So Powerful For Seduction
Using Text messages for seduction is awesome.
And it’s so powerful, it’s hard to believe sometimes! Oh, if I only had this powerful technology available to me when I was in school…I can’t even imagine the possibilities…but, I digress…
The good news is that we have this technology available to us now – and it‟s only getting better.
The more everyone embraces and sees text-ing as “normal,” the easier it gets for text- seducers to do their thing.
The Big Secret
Text seduction is a very “under the radar” method of accessing some of the inner-most, secret parts of a woman’s mind – a part that she usually keeps very private from others, especially from some stranger she met just a few days ago, at some club.
The whole process is very sneaky, really.
Since text’ing is so impersonal, low-intimacy and “safe” (at least in everyone’s minds,) people – especially women – are more willing to drop their guard and just “have fun.” And they do this without ever realizing what could really happen, with a “text-seducer.”
Also, on some level, women view the stuff that happens during ‘texting’ and ‘IM-ing’ as a ‘fantasy’ i.e. it’s not “real”…it’s just “harmless fun,” i.e. it doesn’t mean anything and doesn’t hurt anyone.
And, on many levels, they are right in thinking so.
(Interestingly, women who have had sexual affairs ‘on the side’ view those experiences the same way. In their minds, its okay because “it doesn’t mean anything” and “it was purely sexual, without any emotions or feelings attached.”
Women are able to compartmentalize their lives and their different ‘roles’ very well. So well that its downright scary sometimes.)
As such, women who even have boyfriends or husbands (especially if they’re sexually frustrated or not completely fulfilled) can easily go into online chatrooms and ‘hookup’ (have cybersex) with strangers they have just met minutes ago – and will never meet again!
Even the word “meet” doesn’t mean much since they didn’t ever really meet this person in real life, not face to face anyway. It was just over the computer… it’s anonymous, it’s safe, and in their minds, it didn’t mean anything – even if they were able to get extremely turned on – or have an actual orgasm.
In short, these “fantasy escapes” are to most women what watching pornography is to most men. It “means nothing” and yet they get to have fun or even “get off” – without feeling guilty or feel as if they’re cheating on someone.
Understanding the above dynamic is very important – and incredibly powerful, if the knowledge is then utilized effectively.
(By the way, in case you’re wondering, this manual is not about seducing married women or those with boyfriends/girlfriends. And it would work best on single women. Beyond that, what you do with it is your business – and your responsibility.)
The Other Big Secret
Sure, we’ve all heard it before that the most powerful sexual organ of a woman is her mind.
Yet, that statement has become so cliché these days – it has just lost all it’s power. Men have heard it so many times, without ever really taking the time to “get it” – to really understand it, that its just one more statement men roll their eyes at whenever they hear it.
Most guys will never get it. Consider yourself one of the lucky ones because Text Seduction will show you just how true – and how powerful – the above cliche is.
While men are mostly turned on by visual stimulus (models in bikinis, pornography, etc.) women go crazy, and even soaking wet, by mental stimulus…mostly words that stir up their emotions and imaginations.
There’s a reason many prefer phone sex (or cybersex) with a stranger over real sex with their partners. There’s a reason the “romance novel” category usually gets one of the largest shelf spaces in popular bookstores. Women eat that stuff up! They can’t get enough.
And yes, there’s a reason why so many women prefer ‘fantasy’ over reality.
In their fantasies, the men are romantic and passionate (versus barely remembering to buy flowers or at least a lousy card on her birthday and other important occasions,) they are masculine, take-charge types (not metro sexual or wimpy and indecisive,) they take care of their bodies (not sporting beer bellies,)…and they make women feel feminine, sexy, and wanted (instead of buying or giving her stuff in hopes of making her happy.)
But enough about that…
The two main key points to remember are: words can turn a woman on beyond belief…and… text-ing is considered “safe play” so women’s mental frames are usually more open and adventurous.
And as such, you will be able to go a lot further with them, you’ll be able to take things a lot further with them, sexually (and at a much quicker pace) than you could with a real live conversation (unless of course, you’re read my other manuals on pickups and seduction. 🙂
It’s the Preferred Method
Yes, text-ing is quite often the preferred method of communication, especially in the dating arena – not only by many women but by some men as well.
Since it’s impersonal and “safe,” women are less hesitant about texting than about talking on the phone with a guy (stranger) she met at some club the night before.
Also, text-ing is quick and easy, i.e. it’s convenient. A woman doesn’t have interrupt what she’s doing to talk to you.
She can even receive and reply to texts while in a meeting, at the movies, whatever. (And you can use that fact to play the “private, naughty” game with her, while she’s out with – or around – other people. This is a great strategy that we will talk about more, soon.)
Plus…let’s not forget that we live in a text-ing culture, even a “sex-ting” one!
Just think of all the news you’ve been exposed to recently about celebrities getting busted because of their dirty/secret/private text messages.
There’s Tiger Woods’ getting busted because of text messages to his lover(s)… Chris Brown’s stray text that led to the fight with girlfriend Rihanna…Senator John Ensign’s repeated text busts of secret affairs…
Foreign minister, Ilkka Kanerva reportedly sending some 200 racy texts to a 29-year-old nude dancer…
Brett Favre, Ashley Cole, Tess and Vernon, the list goes on.
Then, you’ve got Wyclef, Bono and other celebrities raising millions for charity – via text donations! It’s pretty incredible.
The point is, text-ing (and sex-ting) is normal in our culture. People do it all the time. And they often prefer it to actually calling someone and talking on the phone when a simple text can be exchanged within seconds.
But, text-seduction is also great for the “shy guy”… for someone who just isn’t all that comfortable talking to a woman in real time, either face to face or over the phone.
You can create comfort, a bond, and even sexual attraction – all without ever having to talk to the woman in real time.
You have the benefit of time… you can think about exactly what you want to say, how to phrase it, and of course, how to insert sneaky seduction stuff into your messages.
It’s also great if you just happen to be someone who doesn’t particularly enjoy long phone conversations or multiple dates before getting anywhere with the woman (possibly with multiple expenses!)
As I mentioned before, text-seduction is awesome, for many reasons! 🙂
Harnessing The Technology
Yes, text-ing is pretty great. And you can do a lot with it, including seducing women into bed.
But…as is true for any powerful technology, there’s a right way and a wrong way of using it.
Using it the right way can do wonders for your life. Using it the wrong way can be boring, frustrating, or even disastrous.
Being able to seduce total strangers into the bedroom can only be possible after you have learned to text-seduce…after you have learned what the rules are. I will reveal my top 10 text seduction rules shortly.
You must learn these rules, memorize them, and always use them when text’ing potential bed-buddies.
Power Rules of Text-Seduction Success
As the title states, these are rules for text seduction. They are not rules for everyday texting, especially texts to your friends and family. Yes, some of these rules (and techniques) could be used with others, but they’re primarily designed to be used when attempting to seduce someone.
1. Your First Text Message Should Never Be ‘Normal’
From the very beginning, you want to stand apart from any other guy she may be communicating with, especially someone that she met who tried to pick her up.
So, don’t ever make your first text “standard”…like…
“Hi, this is Joe from the bar last night. Just wanted to say Hi, and that I had a great time… blah blah blah.”
Don’t do it! … Don’t ever do that.
That’s what every other chump will say to her. You want to stand out among all the other guys, right?
Instead, you should say something unique, and preferably related to the time you met her, when she gave you the number…
“Hey, what’d you think of that last band Friday night?”
Or something a little more unique, but somehow related (we’ll talk more about this shortly…)
“So, what’s your favorite flavor lollipop?” 😉
followed by a winky face, which lets her know that you’re kidding around. (This is also very important, and we’ll talk more about it below.)
It’s also a good idea to sign your first few text messages, i.e. add your name at the end of it.
Example: So, what the hell was wrong with that spikey-haired dude last night?! – Joe
Notice again that you mentioned something from the actual event, i.e. last night. And, hopefully, the two of you had a good time making fun of this “dude.” More on that later.
(Of course, use your own judgment when using words like ‘hell’ or ‘damn’ etc. It may not be a big deal to you, but she may not feel the same way. Your first interaction with her should have given you some idea of whether she can handle it or not.)
2. Your Texts Should Encourage, Even Compel, A Response
Statements or general/boring questions have very little chances of getting a response, especially if the girl doesn’t know you all that well and therefore doesn’t really care much about you.
Women, especially attractive ones, give out their number to more than one guy on any given night. You are not the only one she gave her number to. You’re just one among many, nothing special really. (We’ll fix that later so that you do become someone unique.)
So, chances are very little that she’ll remember who you are, and she may not even care to talk to you anymore.
Therefore, you want to send her text messages that will get her to want to text back. Examples…
“I just realized who you look like…how funny…” …or… “I just realized who you remind me of…wow…” …or…
“That was really interesting what you said to me last night…” …or…
“My friend/co-worker thought it was very interesting what you said last night…”
These are all statements that make her wonder, curious, or even go “huh?”
And as such, she will want to know more about it, or at least want to know what the heck you’re talking about…even if she doesn’t remember who you are, yet.
3. Make an Impression Before You Start Text’ing Her
Maybe this one should have been #1 on this list. Either way, this should at least be STEP #1 in order for your text-seduction strategy to work well from the start. Using this step can also make things much easier, i.e. less effort will be required on your part to make everything else work.
As mentioned in the previous rule above, a woman can (and does) give out her number to more than one guy on any given night. Including the night (or day) that she gave it to you.
So, you should make that first interaction with her memorable. Do something unique or interesting that will force her to remember who you are.
That way, when you do text her, she’ll know who you are right away. You won’t have to exchange a dozen messages trying to make her remember who the heck you are.
Some techniques that have worked well for us are…
Mentioning something unique that happened, or that you learned about her, is good. (Earlier, we mentioned “the last band,”…”the spikey-haired dude”…”lollipop”…etc. All of which were taken from the actual event where you first met, talked, got her number, etc.)
Sharing private jokes are great. It can either be about her, something she said about you, or of course, some joke you made about something or someone around you that night (or day.) Like “the spikey-haired dude” who seemed to act weird.
Nicknames are also great. If, during that first interaction, you can think of a funny (but not insulting) nickname for her, start calling her that. Just don’t over-do it.
(Some guys have used ‘princess,’ ‘angel’ or even ‘brat’ – if it fits the exchange you two shared. Ariel, Jasmine, etc….if she reminds you of a certain Disney character or celebrity. Jolie…if something about her resembles Angelina Jolie. Lara Croft… if she’s very active, out-doorsy, adventurous, takes karate…or again, if she just reminds you of Angelina Jolie.
Nicknames don’t have to be exact matches either. You can make them up very easily, even if there’s only a tiny hint of connection between her and the nickname. (Maybe she has a mole, which is why you started calling her Jolie, or Angie…or heck, Cindy – as in Crawford.)
The main point here is that she remembers it, and by association, remembers you. TIP: Here’s something else that happens when you use the above techniques…
When you first Text her with that nickname, or mention something unique/funny from the time you first talked to her, it also takes her back to that moment emotionally. In other words, she remembers all the fun the two of you had on that first meeting. And…by association, it makes her think of you as “fun” as well.
These little spikes of interest you create in her mind are not huge by themselves. But, stacked on top of each other, over the period of several texts, it can start to seed her mind and “help her” form an impression about you. 🙂
Think of each of them as a little brick that you’re using to build that…uh…”bedroom of love.” (Yes, cheesy, I know. But the analogy is accurate. These little bricks will eventually get you laid!)
4. Your Texts Should Not Be Formal
Remember what we said earlier, these are not like other text messages that you may be sending to your friend, mom, boss, client, business associate, etc.
These are ‘seduction texts’ and they should almost always have a fun, playful, down-to- earth, ‘chill’ aura surrounding the messages.
Example: Instead of writing, “Dear Gillian, it was great seeing you last night and I had a very pleasant time”…
…you should write, “Hey! It was really fun hangin with you last night. Wasn’t the XYZ just absolutely…(hilarious, awesome, moving, whatever…)?”
“XYZ” can be anything fun, interesting or unique that happened during your first meeting…a cool band, some falling on their ass (funny,) a celebrity walking into the club where you two were (shocking, memorable,) whatever.
(Yes, this also means you need to pay attention to what’s going on with her and in your surroundings during your first meeting, and use that.)
Even simple messages like, “How are you doing?” or “How is your day going?” can be sent in a more fun and less formal way.
Example: “Jeeez, this must be the weirdest day of my life! How’s yours going?” (This also has a built-in response generator. She may become curious about what’s so weird going on in your day.)
Even if you’re having the boringest day ever, you could send her something about a ‘crazy day’ and make up some interesting, exciting, crazy story. People love interesting stories.
And, it will brighten up her day a little…plus, in her mind she may even associate fun, craziness, etc. to you.
While we’re on the subject of avoiding being “formal,” it’s perfectly okay, even recommended, that you send her random texts sometimes. It may not be part of, nor fit into, any ongoing conversation. Or it may also be a way to get the texting going back and forth again, if things seemed to have slowed down or died down naturally.
“OMG, you won’t believe who I’m standing next to right now!”
“OMG, you will never guess who I just saw at the XYZ store/restaurant/etc!” “Wow…the server at the starbucks looks like Yoda…except slower…Ugh”
In addition to being random and fun, they are also response generators, i.e. comments that will get her curious enough to text you back.
Don’t over-do this stuff, though, or she may start thinking that you’re full of crap. Although…I do know a guy who happens to use it a lot…but, he will make statements like the following, ahead of time, to set the stage… “The craziest n funniest things seem to happen to me all the time. I don’t why, but it sure makes life interesting… LOL”
5. Always Wait Until You Get A Reply Before Sending More Texts To Her
This one is crucial! (Okay, all the rules are important, but this one is especially important.)
Do not send the same woman multiple text messages without first getting a reply back from her, to your original message. (You can resend the same exact message IF it looks like the first one didn’t make it through, i.e. your phone gives you an error message of some sort. But that’s it.)
A lot of things are wrong with sending multiple messages without getting her response first.
For starters, it makes you look needy or even desperate, i.e. like most other guys she interacts with. That’s a turn-off.
It also lowers your value in her eyes and gives her power over you. The more you keep texting her (without her replying,) the longer she could hold back, just to see how big of a fool you’ll make of yourself.
It is also annoying as hell when someone keeps texting you, especially if you’re on the phone, in a meeting, or just busy and can’t respond just yet. By sending the other person
more messages, you are not encouraging them to respond quicker, you’re making them want to do just the opposite, especially if they’re annoyed by your multiple texts.
And…as mentioned earlier, your text messages should encourage or even compel a response from her. So, don’t get your panties in a bunch if she doesn’t reply right away.
Just relax. Check your phone occasionally and go about your day. Act as if you have more going on in your life than texting her. 😉
And, whatever happens, do not lose your temper. You just met her, don’t give her the impression that she has already become the most important thing in your life. (Can you say “stalker potential?”)
6. Use As Many Words As Needed
In marketing and advertising, people always debate over “how long” or “how short” their sales messages should be. Some people swear by short sales letters while others strongly believe in creating 10 to 20 pages sales letters.
Which group is correct?
Neither. Your message should only be dictated by your audience, not by some marketing
In other words, your message should be as long as it needs to be to get the point across, and not a word longer.
Keep in mind that when seducing via text, words are your weapons of choice! So, you can keep the messages as long (or as short) as they need to be, to get the job done. (That does not mean you should drone on and on about stuff either. Don’t be boring!)
Of course, if her responses are very short or even mono-syllabic, then you’d want to reply in the same style: short texts.
Notice if that gets her to participate more. If it doesn’t, that still may not necessarily be a bad sign. Some people just aren’t great with text messages. She may still go to the emotional highs you take her to…it may just be that she’s not capable of getting her text responses to match the intensity that she’s actually feeling on the other end.
Or… it may simply mean that she’s either too busy…or just too busy for you, i.e. you didn’t take care of the other steps outlined above.
No big deal. If it doesn’t work, you simply move on to the next person.
Sometimes, a final “takeaway” message works, as a last resort…so you could try that, especially if you’re pretty sure she’s a goner or you’ve got nothing to lose.
Example: “Hmm…you must be super busy curing cancer or something over there lol
Anyways, take care!”
Something like that may get her to respond, with something like… “Sorry! It’s just hectic over here.”
“I’m sorry, trying to meet a deadline at the office. Let’s talk this weekend, k?”
Or she may not respond at all. As mentioned earlier, it could just mean that you didn’t take care of the previous steps, rules, etc. It’s not the end of the world. Just learn from it and move on.
7. Beat Her Time
Ideally, you want a girl who tends to reply to your text messages within 5 minutes or less. But, that will not always be the case. Add to that the fact that many women love to “test” the guy and/or play games so she can feel a little better about her day, or about herself, and you’ve got an even greater chance that some women may not reply within 5 minutes of your text being sent to them. (We’ve got a fix for that.)
Also…as mentioned earlier, it’s not always possible to reply to texts right away. Sometimes, people are in a meeting, on the phone, driving, whatever. She may just be busy, or have a busy life, work life, etc.
So, first of all, don’t take it personally. Just follow the rules below…
If her response time tends to be 10-15 minutes – or longer – after your text has been sent, you should take just as long to reply to her last message – or slightly longer.
Basically, you want to beat her time by 5 to 10 minutes if she takes more than 10 to 15 minutes to reply.
I know, I know…it seems childish for adults to be doing this sort of thing, doesn’t it? But, hey…this is what seems to work with women. And, we gotta use what works.
If she always takes more than 15 minutes to reply yet you send all of your replies the moment you get them, it can again make you look a bit needy, desperate, or just someone who doesn’t have much else going on in his life.
So, stick to the rules above.
8. Turn Off The Sex Talk
Yes, this manual is about getting sexual with a woman, and text’ing will be one of the main ways to get them thinking, feeling, and wanting sex with you.
BUT… until you get to the point where you’ve got her thinking about doing naughty, dirty things to you, and with you (which we’ll get to,) you want to keep things balanced.
Balancing means, mixing it up. You don’t always have to talk sexy or naughty, or be flirty. (Just like you don’t always want to watch a comedy. Sometimes you want horror or a thriller.)
Turn it on and off occasionally. By doing this, you accomplish a few things…
By not constantly flirting and talking sex, you will resemble what’s considered a “normal” and fun interaction, she’ll feel better about the entire experience, and about herself.
She also won’t get wierded out or feel uncomfortable, slutty, etc. if you turn the dirty talk on and off occasionally, and give her (and the interaction) a little room to breathe.
Turning it on and off will also build her comfort level and increase her arousal level. Each time you turn it off and turn it back on, she’ll get more aroused than before. (This is a sneaky persuasion trick.) And her comfort level will also expand each time you cycle through the on/off loop.
It’s easy to do the on-off thing. Let’s say you’re in the middle of discussing something naughty or hot…let it run about 70% of it’s course where you’re exchanging the “oooohs, aaaahs, mmmm’s, LOL’s etc.” and then send something like this…
“What’s your favorite song right now?”
By doing something like that, you’ll also show her that “sex” is not all that you think about…and that ‘sex’ is not the only reason you’re chatting with her. Women like to be appreciated for more than just physical lust.
Or even something along the lines of a non-sexual compliment…
“I like this. It feels very comfortable and natural. You seem like a really cool and fun person.”
“Its really cool that we’re able to talk so openly and comfortably about anything.”
This kind of stuff can be deadly powerful. Not only are you being non-sexual (turning it off temporarily) and giving her a compliment, you’re actually making her think (and believe) that “Yes, talking to you is in fact very comfortable and natural.”
It’s super sneaky too. Just by making that statement, you’re able to increase her comfort level and make her willing to talk even naughtier, sexier, dirtier the next time around.
Like I said… very powerful!
9. Be the First to Switch
It’s also very important that you be the one that always (or almost always) changes the subject from sex-talk to something else. (That’s why I chose the “70%” mark above.) By doing this, you will get her mind to start thinking that she is the sexually-aggressive one in this situation, i.e. the situation that involves you.
This is another sneaky way to get her to keep moving forward (towards you) sexually, without her feeling weird or uncomfortable. If you’re always the aggressor, she could start feeling awkward and uneasy. This is like a dance, there’s give and take, back and forth. There are two people involved in this, not just one (i.e. not just you.)
You will notice that one of the overall themes in this text-seduction strategy is to get the woman to feel comfortable playing with you, whether its joking around, teasing, flirting, or exchanging more sexual thoughts.
And soon enough, she’ll find herself in the bedroom, with you, enjoying all those things you both talked about via text messages. 🙂
10. Leave Her Hanging…
You don’t always have to be the last person to text back, especially if you know that the current conversation is about to end. In fact, make it a point to not be the last person to text back, whenever possible.
This can happen if one of you is about to go out for lunch, or into a meeting, or even to bed (if it’s getting late for one of you.)
Her: Yes, Exactly! LOL Hey, I’m about to go into a meeting, talk to you when I get out, k?
You: Sure thing. Break a leg…or pencil..or whatever. lol Oh yeah, remind me to tell you about my co-worker’s eye when you get out. LOL!!
Her: LOL Okay, sounds good!
You could say “bye” and then she’ll reply with “bye” or nothing at all. OR… you could just leave it there, i.e. let her be the last one to reply.
This can be subtle but powerful if done correctly. Like I said, they’re little bricks that help you ramp up your seduction. It will also increase your pull of her towards you a tiny bit more.
Notice how you also “baited” her to respond right away but mentioning something ‘interesting’ about your co-worker. It will get her curious, intrigued, etc. and get her to text you back.
Her: I know what you mean. I try to avoid that stuff…(blah blah…)
You: Smart girl. 😉 Hey, I hate to cut it short but I gotta get some sleep. Super early day tomorrow! Sorry 🙁
Her: Oh okay, no problem. Yeah, it is getting pretty late.
You: 🙂 Sleep tight, Tomb Raider!
Her: Thanks, you too!
You can end it there. If she says “goodnight,” you may want to reply with a goodnight….But…add a little more to it, something that may get her to respond back…with at least an LOL or something.
Her: Thanks, you too! Goodnight
You: Goodnight! Don’t you go dreaming about me or anything now. 😉
Her: LOL yeah, you wish! haha
Leave her hanging sometimes…and let her be the last one to reply.
It’s a subtle but powerful technique. It will also increase your pull on her (towards you) a tiny bit more each time you let her be the last to reply.
So, there’s my top 10 rules of text seduction. There’s more to it than just those 10 rules, which we will go over soon.
Obviously, in order to use any of the tips in this manual, you’ll first need a phone number to use ’em on. So, let’s quickly go over that…
Getting the Number
Phone numbers mean absolutely nothing unless you know what to do after (and even before) you get that number.
Here’s the big secret…
Giving out a phone number means much less to women than it does to men. (Remember this and don’t ever forget it!)
Guys don’t want to hear that, but it’s absolutely true.
Most guys think that by giving you her number, a girl is saying that she’d be willing to have sex with you. Not true.
Or, that the girl is at least interested enough to “go out” with you, right?? Again, not true.
Numbers often mean nothing to women. So, don’t invest too much emotion into the act of receiving a number. Just think of it as the first teeny-tiny, yet important step. And that’s it. (After all, you can’t text or call a girl without having her number, right?
If she’s having fun (whether you’re the cause or not,) if she’s had a drink or two, or is just in the right mood, she will give her number out if the guy seems harmless enough, i.e. he’s not giving out the stalker or serial killer vibe.
Sometimes, she’ll even give her number out, out of guilt. They guy may have just bought her an expensive drink. Or he may have just spent the last 30 minutes trying to talk to her and get to know her. (Most of these conversations are boring at best, to her. But she’s too nice to tell the guy to “f–k off” or she’s bored anyway and the guy seems harmless enough and is at least giving her some attention (i.e. a brush to her ego.)
Okay…with that out of the way, let’s quickly go over how to get her phone number. There are a lot of ways to easily get a woman’s phone number. I could write an entire report just on “how to get phone numbers.” (If you’d like to see a report like that, let me know.)
Since the purpose of this report is not about getting numbers but rather about seducing women using text messages, I will only share a couple of quick ways to get her number.
First of all, do not ask her number right away. Why is she going to give a stranger her number, especially if you appear to be just like the last 5 guys who talked to her for 2 seconds and then asked for her number?
You’ll have to show her something interesting, intriguing, or at least fun about yourself, first.
So, let’s say the two of you are having a casual conversation, you’re cracking a few jokes (come prepared with these if you have to,) and she’s having fun (smiles and especially laughter are good signs.)
(This is also where you can find out a little about her, and use the info to create a “nickname” for her, or something to playfully tease her about, now and especially later, when you text her.)
Next…let her qualify herself to you. i.e. let her prove to you that she’s someone you would be interested in learning more about. (You’re basically turning the tables on her.)
By doing this, she will attach more value to you than she would have otherwise. (If you’d like to learn more about these face-to-face seduction techniques, you can get one of my other seduction manuals where I break this down step-by-step, so you know exactly what to say from start to finish.)
Getting her to qualify herself is simple. You just ask her a question like this…
“You seem like a cool person. Let me ask you this… what would you say makes you unique, and different, maybe even special…from all the other women out here?”
By asking something like that, you’re also subtly pointing out to her that her good looks, her “outer beauty” is not enough for you. Maybe even that you’re used to talking with attractive women all the time and you want more than just a pretty face.
This is very powerful.
After you’ve got her to qualify herself (and mentally invest more into you,) you can then go for the phone number…
Technique #1: “I don’t usually do this…”
You: You know, I promised myself I would never do this again, but you just might make me break that rule.
(You’re giving her a lot of interesting and curious “bait” to bite on here – unless she’s super slow. She’ll be curious about what promise/rule you’re talking about, and also why/how she is making you break that promise/rule, i.e. she also wants to know what you are subtly complimenting her on. Plus, you’re creating an opening for one of your “stories.”)
Her: Oh really? What do you mean? What rule!
You: Well, I promised myself a long time ago that I would never ask for a number from someone who I met at a “club” or “bar.” You almost never meet “real” people in these kind of settings, you know?
Now…she would have to agree with you here. If she doesn’t, she’ll be implying that she’s one of those “phony” people you’re referring to.
Her: Oh yeah, totally. Lots of phonys out there. So, you’re breaking your rule just for me, huh? haha
You: Well? What do you think…Am I going to regret breaking my rule here?
(You’re once again having her qualify herself, and prove to you that she’s worth the risk. 😉
Her: Haha No, I think you’re pretty safe there.
You: Well…okay, you’ve convinced me…(smile)… Here… (hand her your phone)…just punch your number into the phone…
Warning: Don’t try to tell her that she’s “super special” or someone you could see yourself “falling in love with” when giving her a reason why you’re willing to break your rule. That’s going overboard.
Just stick to, “You just seem like a cool, fun person to hang out with.”
Don’t get too serious (with the “love” or “soulmate” stuff) or you’ll scare her off.
Technique #2: “I just wanna know that you’re safe…”
This one’s to be used when one of you is about to leave, or the evening/night is winding down and you’re ready to part ways – especially if you’re at a club/bar where alcohol consumption has been a factor.
You: Ok, I don’t wanna sound like a grandpa but…I want you to text me when you get home.
You: I just want to know that you’ve reached home safely. I would just sleep better. If she needs further explanation or still seems confused, you can say…
You: See, an hour ago you, were a complete stranger. But now…well, I know about you and about your jealous dog. (smile) And, I just would feel better knowing that you reached home safely. That’s all.
Hey, I won’t even call you, promise. Unless you beg me to call. (smile)
At this point, she’ll probably laugh, and you can exchange numbers. Or you can put hers into yours and text her right there, before you leave. And, then tell her to just text back from that message/number.
You could also say, “Ok, so text me in say 40 minutes or so, okay?” (assuming that’s how long she said it would take her to get home.)
If she doesn’t text you that night, or forgets to, or loses her phone, or whatever… you can shoot a text the next morning…
You: Hey, brat! Are you still alive or did the cabbie kidnap you? … If he’s got you tied up, text one character for “help or two for “I’m enjoying being tied up.”
Notice above that you’re not getting angry or upset. You’ll still managing to keep your cool and your sense of humor. (Both are very important here.)
If at anytime during your “number getting” process, the woman gives you a hard time or pokes at you a little bit, again, keep your cool and poke back a little…
Her: I don’t know if I should give you my number.
You: Hmm…And, here I thought you were the fun-loving, adventurous, live-by-your- own-rules kinda girl. You’re making me wonder now…
Her: I am that kinda girl!!
You: Oh yeah? Prove it. Punch your # into my phone. (This is another dare.)
Just hand her your phone after you say that last line, above, and keep holding it out till she either grabs it or backs out.
If she tries to weasel out of it, you can poke a little more fun at her, call her “chicken,” or “all talk” etc. (Although, if you take care of the earlier steps as advised above, you shouldn’t have to experience this particular type of situation. Generally, I’m not a fan of getting a number out of guilt, pressure, or embarrassment. But, it has worked for guys in the past.)
(If you’d like to get more “word for word” phrasing for non-text pickups and seduction, just let me know and I’ll send you more info on other reports/manuals that I have available.)
Yes, it’s true that Joe only used texts and emails to get the girl to invite him to her apartment, specifically to have sex with her because he turned her on so much.
However, it’s not necessary to do exactly what Joe did. If you want to do it, that’s fine. Just keep in mind that using only texts and emails may not always be the most effective way to bed every woman.
So…generally speaking, your goal should be to use text messages, emails and phone calls to get the woman into bed with you. (Maybe even IM, i.e. instant messenger or any form of chatting online.)
No, you don’t have to use all of them, especially if you don’t want to. But, in certain situations, it will help you to use more than just text messages.
My point is, do whatever works to get her ready. If you’re most comfortable with texting, then do that. (Unless she doesn’t care for text-ing, in which case, you’ll either have to mix it up OR find another woman to play with.)
Having said that, your text messages will be doing the heavy lifting, if you so wish. Text messages are typically what will get the story moving forward, i.e. towards the bedroom, which is where you want it to go.
HUMOR and Laughter
If you haven’t figured it out by now, humor is one of the best tools you can have at your disposal.
Humor, and laughter, is one of the most powerful ways to get a woman to loosen up, become comfortable, and just open up more to you.
(Laughter also helps women’s bodies become more relaxed, relieves stress and tension. And the more relaxed they are, the more easily you’ll be able to turn their bodies “on” sexually (once you start the sensual talk.)
That, mixed in with flirty, sexy texts can make it very easy for you to bed most women. I’m not talking about the standard “guy walks into a bar” type jokes, obviously (unless you happen to have a great one that you just have to share.) Instead, funny stuff that happened to you, or just funny one-liners that fit in with the conversation, funny and witty replies to her texts, are all great.
If you’re not a naturally funny guy, I would strongly advise you to start watching comedy shows, movies, and develop a better sense of humor. This will help you in almost all areas of life, not just with women.
Of, if you have to… for now, just borrow jokes and one-liners from other people, places, sitcoms, etc. and have fun.
My, My, You’ve Got A Dirty Mind, Missy!
Another great technique to use is where you take everything she says (or texts) and
(purposely) misinterpret them as innuendos, passes, and flirty/sexual talk.
It’s important that you do all this in a playful, teasing manner…don’t make it appear too serious or she may feel weird or uncomfortable about it.
She may ask you a personal (but not intrusive) question…
Her: So where do you live?
You: Wait…are you sure you’re not a stalker or something?” …or… “Wait…if I tell you, how do I know you’re not gonna be knocking on my door at 3:00 a.m. for a booty call?? Her: LOL ….or…. “LOL Yeah, you wish!”
You: Hey, a guy can’t be too careful these days, ya know. 😉 She may be tired and say…
Her: Ahh I’m so ready for bed.
You: OMG, we just met. I’m flattered n all but…I don’t jump into bed with someone so quickly, ya know!
Her: LOL whatev’s… I’m going to bed…pervert.
You: Takes one to know one, huh? 😉
Her: lol goodnight!!
You: Oh fine… but you better not dream about me! I’m not ready yet!
Her: lol dork You: 🙂 bye Her: bye 🙂
She will usually respond with laughter or a follow-up joke. But just in case she gets confused with your above comment, you can simply reply with an “LOL” or “haha long day, huh?” (That reply also implies that she missed your obvious joke because she’s tired. It gives her an excuse.)
Or…she could say…
Her: What a day…I could really use a massage right now.
You: If this is your sneaky way of trying to get me to your place, I am shocked and appalled!
Her: lol I already have a massage guy, thank you!
You: Sigh…ok good, coz I was about ready to blow my rape whistle on you
Her: lol why, do you give good massages?
You: Actually I do. But only to those who I feel are deserving of it (or…have earned it.)
This line of conversation could very easily go on for a while. And, all along the way, you could continue to lay those bricks and ramp things up more and more.
You could even use the above “dirty mind” technique when you first meet her (before you get her number.) It works really well and often makes for a fun conversation.
Getting Information (And More) From Her
As we’ve already established, text-ing gets women to drop their guard more, and also makes them more open to fun, flirting, and even sexual teasing….to a point that they would rarely take it if you were talking to them in person – face to face.
It’s just human nature to be more comfortable and easy-going when you’re behind a computer, or phone, and miles away, versus being face-to-face and right in front of someone.
And…aside from taking things a lot further with her, a lot quicker, you can also get a lot of info out of her…even when you don’t really expect her to tell you.
For example, after flirting via text for a little bit, I typed…
Me: Okay, you’re really in need of a spanking now! What’s your address… I’m on my way right now to take care of you…
Believe it or not, she replied seconds later with her actual home address! I kid you not.
I was both surprised that she sent it and excited that I may have accidentally discovered a new technique! 😉
Another time, I text’ed someone (a different woman) and she replied with…
Her: Hi! Sorry I was in the shower and just got out. To which, I couldn’t help but reply with…
Me: Ooooh…I bet you look amazing with that “wet hair” look.
Me: Can I get a pic? 😉
Ok, keep in mind that I was totally joking and did not expect this to work at all. Especially since we hadn’t even started talking about the overtly sexual stuff yet.
Her: You won’t think less of me?
This is when I started to wonder that she may actually be considering sending a pic!
Me: Of course not! I think it would be amazing. 🙂
Seconds later, she sends me a shot of herself… topless…wet hair and all. Hard to believe, I know. But, absolutely true.
My point is this… be as bold as you can be, without creeping her out. The great thing about text-messaging is, you can be more bold and direct without appearing to be threatening (like if you said the same things to her face-to-face.)
As long as you approach it from a sense of fun and playfulness, and you make her feel comfortable with you, you just never know how far you may really go with a woman that day, even when you think you’re just joking or being funny!
Some of these women will (pleasantly) surprise you a lot sooner than you may think! 🙂
Comfort and Security
This one may not seem all that important to guys, but it is very important to women. Understanding this will make it a lot easier for you to get her naked…
Women are generally insecure about their looks and their bodies, no matter how great you think they look.
I’ve dated a few models in my time, and even they are insecure about some part of their body or face.
To me, they looked absolutely flawless, examples of genetic perfection. But to themselves, they looked flawed. There was always at least one or two things they felt insecure about, even if it was something as silly as “both their earlobes not being exactly the same size.”
So, making a woman feel comfortable and secure about herself and her looks can be very helpful to you.
This part should be done subtly though. Don’t start giving her too many compliments or it will either seem insincere, or as if you’re “kissing up” – both of which are turn-offs for women.
You: So what kind of physical activities do you do. Her: Umm….nothing! haha I know it’s lame.
You: Really? Nothing at all? Hmm…You seem to be in good shape though.
Her: Thanks! Well I mean I do go to the gym and sometimes do yoga there, but that’s it. You: Ahhhhh…. must be the yoga then. 😉
Her: lol Maybe. I should really do it more regularly though.
The thing with this one is, you are ready to steer the conversation towards sports or other physical activities she may be doing, or is interested in.
Of course, if she says she doesn’t do anything, you can tease her a little about it – and you can slip in an indirect compliment about her body, like the one given above, without it sounding like you’re focused or obsessed about her body.
Also, if you’re going to get her to sleep with you within a few days after meeting her, and just by using text seduction, she may want it just as much as you do but she won’t want to appear (or feel) like a „slut‟ (or cheap) for wanting to sleep with you.
And you should help her get rid of that discomfort and negative feelings. Here are a few examples of how to do just that…
You: Normally, this would feel like it’s moving way too fast. But, with you, it feels really comfortable. I don’t feel weird talking to you about all this and saying all this stuff eventhough I’ve only met you two days ago.
You: I mean, I like you…and I feel that we connect really well with each other, know what I mean?
Her: I was thinking that too, that its weird we’re moving so fast. But, you’re right, it does feel comfortable, and not rushed at all. Which is…um…weird. lol
See, women are already concerned about the things you mentioned above. So, you’re just beating her to the punch and getting it out in the open (addressing those issues) before she has a chance to bring it up.
And by doing that, you handle it, i.e. you get it out of the way, and out of her mind. It becomes one less thing for her to worry about.
Most importantly, it makes her feel more comfortable and confident about her decision to sleep with you, without feeling cheap or slutty afterwards. Nice, eh? 😉
It’s also very important to get her to start feeling body sensations early on. I’m not talking about turning her on or anything sexual.
It can be something as simple as getting her to feel relaxed (for starters) or getting her excited enough to where her heart rate and breathing changes. It’s actually very easy to do once you know how.
You can do it by using guided visualizations. And you can sneak these into your regular conversation so she won’t realize what you’re doing until she’s right in the middle of one, and enjoying the body sensations that come with it.
You: Question… what’s the best way you’ve found to relax, like after a long day? Her: Soaking in the bathtub for sure.
You: Nice…completely underwater or head out
Her: lol everything except my head. You: bubbles or no
Her: sometimes bubbles. i like crystals better. You: crystals?
Her: bath crystals. salts n stuff
You: Oh!! lol cool. any favorite scent?
Her: hmm…depends. lavendar is good for relaxing
You: ah nice. smells good to i bet huh
Her: Yep! very relaxing
As you talking to her about all this and getting her to describe what she does, her mind will very easily revisit the actual experience – and she will start to feel all the body sensations that she remembers feeling when she’s actually in the bathtub soaking and relaxing. (It’s a sneaky, hypnosis trick.)
You: How hot is the water
Her: i like it pretty hot actually. a friend of mine thought it was way too hot. You: oh yeah? you like it that hot huh?
Her: oh I love it.
You: feels nice on the skin, huh?
Her: yes! its like a weird kinda massage. in a way. lol
You: so the water’s really hot, just the way you like it. and it smells really good. and all of your stress and tension just melts away i bet, huh!
Her: oh totally! i wish i was in the tub right now! i’m missing it lol
You: has it been a while? Her: too long i think.
You: that’s too bad. you should enjoy one tonight. Her: thats what im thinkin too! lol
Notice how we combined everything, all the sensations she would feel at once – temperature, scent, tension melting away, etc. This hits the message home even stronger, and she starts to feel her body go through some of those sensations, which is exactly what we want.
You can actually continue the above conversation and ask her how she can make her experience even better! And, let her tell you how instead of you trying to guess what she likes. She may say add in some candles, or soothing music, or whatever.
And again, the more she describes the details to you, the more she’ll start to feel
(remember) those sensations in her body.
By taking her through these guided visualizations, her body starts to awaken to pleasurable sensations, even if they are non-sexual…for now. 😉
What you’re doing is, you’re associating her wonderful body sensations to you…to talking to you…to spending time with you. You’re getting her mind to believe that hanging out with you will be pleasurable for her, and her mind will want to continue having those wonderful experiences.
In a way, you’re getting her mind to crave more, and to crave stronger (read: more sensual, even sexual sensations.)
Once you get her imagination going, you’ll be able to build on that stuff more and more easily. (You’ll see in how, in some examples given later.)
Plus, you’re just making her feel good… feel positive emotions and sensations! And that’s always a plus.
Notice how I ask them questions about what they do, how each of those actions makes them feel. And the more details they give you, the more they describe their own process, the more they’ll feel the sensations in their body, while they’re telling you about it all.
You can also combine the above guided relaxation or something similar into an actual massage – when you meet her in person. The massage, combined with a great guided visualization can get her ready for more, very easily and quickly.
Open Her Mind…
Just as you did above with her body, you can also do with her mind. It’s another powerful way to “open her up” to more of you.
You can get her to start thinking about new experiences, new adventures, exploration, etc. Talk about things she’s always wanted to do but hasn’t yet: traveling to exotic places,
skydiving or meditating, learning a foreign language.
And while you talk to her about all of this, find out how these things make her feel. Get to the emotions behind them. That’s where the magic is hidden.
Once again, these are the gateways to pleasure. You’re getting her mind to realize that being with you will bring her new and wonderful experiences, even if you never actually do any of those things in real life.
It’s all part of her mental stimulation – and she’s enjoying them with you, so you get associated into those pleasures. Again – very powerful stuff!
Of course, then there’s the actual sexual talk, aka “sexting” where you’re basically describing what you would do to each other.
The more comfortable she gets talking about the earlier subjects with you (body sensations, guided visualizations,) the more ready she’ll become to take things to the next level.
In fact, she may even surprise you by going there before you do! If that happens, do not make fun of her or tease her about it. Ever!
Instead, encourage that behavior! Cheer her on. Tell her how she’s driving you crazy, and that you can’t focus on your work or daily activities, etc.
Make her think that she’s driving you mad with her sex talk. This will make her want to do more because she’ll enjoy having that kind of power over you.
And, while she’s doing all that, she won’t even realize that she’s being the sexually- aggressive one. 😉